11-yr-old prefers rich dad to mom

11-yr-old prefers rich dad to mom

When children speak, even judges listen. In a unique custody case, the Bombay high court removed a boy from his mother’s care after the 11-year-old told judges that although he loved both parents equally, he wanted to live with his father.

The division bench observed that in custody battles, the ‘‘wishes of the child must override all other considerations’’. Justice Ranjana Desai and R P Sondurbaldota interviewed the boy in their chambers and found that ‘‘for his age he showed a good amount of maturity’’. They also noticed how ‘‘stressed he was because of the discord between his parents’’. The boy’s name has been withheld to protect his identity.

The battle has been a bitter one. The mother, who has had custody of her son since her talaq in 1999, said the only reason he wanted to move was because the father was ‘‘extremely rich and offered him a very good lifestyle’’. The court acknowledged this and said that there was no doubt that the boy was drawn by the ‘‘comfortable lifestyle’’ of his father, a prominent real estate developer from Goregaon, but added that there were other reasons to be considered, such as the father-son bond.

The mother also pointed out that there were a number of civil and criminal cases pending against the father and that he had even been in two weeks’ custody for an economic offence. Moreover, she said that her ex-husband was an Australian citizen and could easily take the boy out of the country and therefore should not be given custody.

The father, in his defense, said that he had been discharged from the cheating case and that the other matters were filed against him because he was the director of a real estate firm.

Father cites Muslim law to get son’s custody

Mumbai: In a unique custody case, the Bombay HC removed a boy from his mother’s care after the 11-year-old told judges that although he loved both parents equally, he wanted to live with his father.

The boy’s father, a prominent real estate developer in Mumbai, also sought to clinch his position by pointing out that under Muslim personal law, the guardian of a boy after he turns seven is the father.

The court was sympathetic to the mother, praised her for bringing up a child who ‘‘appeared well brought up and well groomed’’ and said no one could take a mother’s place in a child’s life. But the deal breaker was that the boy himself had asked to be with his father.

The mother will have access to her son on weekends while during school vacations the boy will divide his time equally between parents.

The father had first sought custody in 1999 but his plea was dismissed. This time it was different. ‘‘What has really weighed with us is the fact that the boy has said he wants to stay with his father...other things being equal we have no option but to direct that interim custody be given to father,’’ the order said.

Ref: The Times of India

Ladies Special - Signs of a Cheating Husband

Ladies Special - Signs of a Cheating Husband

One of the most common ways you can detect if your partner is cheating is by looking out for changes in his day to day routine and behaviour. If your partner is having an affair it is quite likely that he will start acting differently. This is because we all settle into certain routines when things are regular and normal so it is only natural that if something changes in our lives then things get thrown off course and we start doing things differently. These changes in your husband's routine can be giveaway clues that he's seeing someone else but can be so easily missed.Have you detected any of the following?

• Has he become short tempered with you or children?
• Does he want to be out more now whereas before he was happy to be at home with you?
• Does he stay awake later a night? This may be so that he can phone, SMS or email 'her'
  once you've gone to bed or simply in the hope that you'll be asleep before he gets into bed.
• Suspicious cell phone behaviour - Has he become possessive of his cell phone? Does he keep it close by whenever you're nearby? Men who cheat use their cell phone to communicate with the other women. Unless they are totally stupid and use their home phone number. Look for him erasing his call logs and messages constantly.
• Does he insist on answering the phone and talks in coded mode if you are around or feels uncomfortable by your presence?
• Has he become more possessive toward his wallet, pocket calendar or briefcase?
• Has he started avoiding you in the home? Doesn’t look into your eyes straight?
• Does he go out for longer and more frequent walks?
• No more arguing - Has he become docile when arguments arise? Men do not like confrontation when they are cheating, they will do whatever it takes to avoid any type of heated confrontation.
• Has he lost interest in things he used to be passionate about, say a particular sport or a particular hobby?
• All of a sudden has he starts talking about getting together with old friends he hasn't seen in years and about whom he has never spoken of to you?
• Have you noticed him suddenly being more knowledgeable about women's clothing, perfume or jewellery? If so he could be buying gifts for another woman.
• Has he started to take an interest in something that you know he was never previously bothered about?
• Has he stopped leaving his clothes lying around or started doing any of his own washing, maybe because there are revealing smells or marks on them?
• Has he started encouraging you to go alone to visit parents or friends now a days?
• Has he started attending extended seminars/official/business trips or going on tours he never used to attend and go before with that frequency?
• Did he remember things he had forgotten to do at the office and wants to leave immediately at odd hours?
• Does he forget to wear the wedding ring sometimes?
• Does he make a point of keeping the car/bike free of things belonging to you or the kids?
• Has he has started keeping an overnight bag in his car or office, apparently for a workout?

These signs of a cheating husband appearing now and then may not mean anything in isolation, but if you notice a number of them happening with a pattern, you should take them as a warning signs that there's probably something wrong going on. You must take corrective steps to save your marriage.

Source:-http://www.hyderabadpolice.gov.in/

Strength of a Man

The strength of a man isn't seen in the width of his shoulders.
It is seen in the width of his arms that encircle you.
The strength of a man isn't in the deep tone of his voice.
It is in the gentle words he whispers.
The strength of a man isn't how many buddies he has.
It is how good a buddy he is with his kids.
The strength of a man isn't in how respected he is at work.
It is in how respected he is at home.
The strength of a man isn't in how hard he hits..
It is in how tender he touches.
The strength of a man isn't how many women he's Loved by.
It is in can he be true to one woman.
The strength of a man isn't in the weight he can lift.
It is in the burdens he can understand and overcome.




Beauty of a Woman

The beauty of a woman
Is not in the clothes she wears,
The figure she carries,
Or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman
Must be seen from her eyes,
Because that is the doorway to her heart,
The place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman
Is not in a facial mole,
But true beauty in a woman
Is reflected in her soul.
It is the caring that she lovingly gives,
The passion that she shows,
The beauty of a woman
With passing years-only grows.


Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman,
but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man







Luv Happens Only Once....
Rest Is Just Life...

Frequency of Marriage versus Divorce

Two out of five couples in Mumbai seek divorce. For every five weddings registered in Mumbai and Thane since 2002, family courts have received two applications for divorce. Exactly 104,287 marriages were registered in Mumbai and Thane between January 2002 and October 2007. During the same period, the family courts in the two districts received 44,922 applications for a divorce.

Figures for 2007 bear out the trend. Mumbai and Thane registered 17,221 marriages between January and October last year; there were 7,813 applications for divorce in the same time.

‘‘Even long-standing, stable matrimonial relationships may eventually crack under severe pressure,’’ a Tata Institute of Social Sciences sociologist said. ‘‘There is no shame or stigma attached to a divorce now and even parents often back their daughters who want to separate if things do not fall in place,’’ psychiatrist Harish Shetty added. The increasing numbers corroborate what they say. 2007 (till October) saw 4,138 divorce applications in Mumbai. This is an increase of 47.5%. over the 2002 figure of 2,805.

- 25 January 2008 Page 19 Delhi The Times of India.

If this is the result of growth, I really do not move towards growth. This data is really shocking . People are doing marriages for their fun . Why they marry with each other? Marriage is just like a compromise of Ego. Divorce harms the future of children. We can not let them on the mercy of society. Children has not committed any crime. Why divorced couple destroy the future of children? Children are the result of their marriage. If we will give the knowledge to them about their fate at the time of birth , they do not wish to take the birth. Now HR Mangers should make the policies about working life of married couple in their company. It is necessary because it effect on the working capacity of manpower. They have to maintain the equilibrium between the growth of company and personal life of their man power. We are not machine, we are human beings. Couple need the time to understand the complicacies of life.

Same-Sex Marriage

Main articles: Same-sex marriage and Same-sex union
Since 2001, five nations have made same-sex marriage legal, namely the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, and South Africa. Israel, Aruba, and the Netherlands Antilles recognize same-sex marriages from other jurisdictions. In the United States, Massachusetts and Iowa are the only states to recognize same-sex marriage under the name marriage. (The district court in Iowa which struck down the state's Defense of Marriage Act issued a stay on the ruling the next day, only one same sex couple has been married under Iowa law) Civil unions are a separate form of legal union open to couples of the same sex, often carrying the same entailments as opposite-sex marriage under a different name. Denmark was the first country in the world (in 1989) to extend the rights and responsibilities of marriage to same-sex couples under the name of registered partnership. Civil unions (and registered partnerships) are currently recognized in 24 out of 193 countries worldwide and in some U.S. states. Many U.S. states have adopted referendums or laws that generally restrict marriage recognition to opposite-sex couples. Federally, the U.S. Senate has considered, and failed to pass, a Federal Marriage Amendment. In Australia, de facto relationships are legally recognized in many, but not all, ways, with some states having registers of de facto relationships, although the federal government has amended existing legislation to specify that only marriages between a man and a woman will be recognized as 'marriages'. As a result, the Australian Capital Territory's 2006 Bill to give civil unions identical status and processes as registered marriages, was repealed by the federal government before it came into effect.

Civil unions are recognized and accepted in approximately 30 countries. Same-sex marriages have also been recorded in the history of pre-modern Europe. Same-sex marriage remains statistically insignificant worldwide, as it is not legally recognized in most countries.[clarify] However, in countries where it has been adopted, applications for marriage licenses have far exceeded governmental estimates of demand. As homosexuality has become more accepted in Western cultures, more governments are allowing and/or sanctioning unions of same-sex couples.

These developments have created a political and religious reaction in some countries, including in England, where the Church of England, after long debate, officially banned blessings of gay couples by Church of England clergy, and in the United States, where several states have specifically defined marriage as between a man and a woman, often after popular referendums, including the state of Mississippi which passed a constitutional amendment defining marriage as between a man and a woman and refusing to recognize same-sex marriages from other states with 86% of the vote supporting that proposition. [3]PDF (29.9 KiB) Conversely, two states, California and Massachusetts, have sanctioned some form of same-sex unions. In addition, Lutheran churches in Netherlands, New Zealand, Sweden and some Lutheran churches of the Evangelical Church in Germany allow blessing ceremonies for same-sex couples. In other countries, (such as Finland) such ceremonies are discouraged and rarely performed by the church.[citation needed]

Civil unions are a separate form of legal union open to couples of the same sex. Many more countries have legalized civil unions than those which have legalized same-sex marriage. Some religious denominations ceremonially perform civil unions, and recognize them as essentially equivalent to marriage.

What is LOVE ?

For centuries man has tried to define love, to capture its essence, to reach through words and thoughts to its very core. But by and large, love has escaped the clutches of words, cages of definitions. It floats free as an abstraction, as music, as a lyrical lore and continues to claim its victims, innocent young hearts, all through centuries.
None have been able to click on "escape" or "delete" buttons when face to face with power of love.
The dictionary defines love as deep affection and fondness. In a generalized sense, love is a strong attraction or a magnetic pull coupled with intense caring for a thing or an activity or a person.
However, we are talking here about love between man and woman or two persons. It most certainly has a quality that separates it from love one feels for one's child, parents, or love for books, music, sports, nature, or even towards one's own self.
Love between man and woman is the most profound experience, an out of the ordinary occurrence and is often coupled with desire for physical intimacy with the other for its ultimate expression. It has even been said to be a magical or metaphysical experience.
It is rather strange to think when love happens you say 'I have fallen in love". It can not be just a coincidence that this phrase, often used without introspection or speculation, can really give us a clue to how it feels to be in love.
There must be a sense of falling from a great height, like a feather, light weight, there is a feeling of lightness, of happiness, of surrender. In this fall resides a lover's rise. A person who has not fallen in love has never risen in life, as wise men say.
In love you surrender. In love you give. In love you care. In love you accept. In love you cease to matter alone. The other becomes part of you. The object of your love envelopes your soul, your thoughts, your being.
The Beatles stars John Lennon and Paul McCartney created the song "All you need is love". Mahatma Gandhi has said "Love never claims, it only gives". Poet Janos Arany says "In dream and in love, there are no impossibilities".
It seems nature has conspired for us to fall in love. Let's love and let's live.

Marriage and religion

Many religions have broad teachings regarding marriage. Most Christian churches blessing the couple being married; the wedding ceremony sometimes involves a pledge by the community to support the couple's relationship. Religious communities widely hold marriage as a relationship uniquely allegorical to God's relationship with the people; the husband represents God and the bride represents the whole of God's chosen people.[citation needed]
Liturgical Christian communions—notably Anglicanism, Catholicism, and Orthodoxy—consider marriage (sometimes termed holy matrimony) to be an expression of grace, termed a sacrament or mystery. In Western ritual, the sacrament is bestowed upon a husband and wife by the spouses themselves, with a bishop, priest, or deacon normally witnessing the union on behalf of the church. In Eastern ritual churches, the clergyman functions as the minister. Western Christians commonly term marriage a vocation, while Eastern Christians term it an ordination and a martyrdom, though the theological emphases indicated by the various names are not excluded by the teachings of either tradition. Marriage is commonly celebrated in the context of a Eucharistic service (a nuptial Mass or Divine Liturgy). The sacrament of marriage is indicative of the relationship between Christ and the Church, yet most Reformed Christians would deny the elevation of marriage to the status of a sacrament. Nevertheless it is considered a covenant between spouses before God.[citation needed]
In Judaism, marriage is viewed as a contractual bond commanded by God in which a man and a woman come together to create a relationship in which God is directly involved. Though procreation is not the sole purpose, a Jewish marriage is also expected to fulfill the commandment to have children. The main focus centers around the relationship between the husband and wife. Kabbalistically, marriage is understood to mean that the husband and wife are merging together into a single soul. This is why a man is considered "incomplete" if he is not married, as his soul is only one part of a larger whole that remains to be unified.
Islam also recommends marriage highly; among other things, it helps in the pursuit of spiritual perfection. Age of marriage is whenever the individuals feel ready, financially and emotionally, for marriage. It should also be noted that in Islam, marriage is not a religious concept as it is in many religions, but a civil contract between a man and a woman.[citation needed]
Bahá'u'lláh, the founder of the Bahá'í Faith, recommended that people marry as an assistance to themselves in their well-being, but did not make it obligatory; he explained that it is both a physical and spiritual bond that endures into the afterlife. Shoghi Effendi, the Guardian of the religion, stated that marriage is a foundation for the structure of of human society. A Bahá'í marriage requires the consent of the couple, and then of all living parents, as to strengthen the ties between the families and avoid enmity. Hinduism sees marriage as a sacred duty that entails both religious and social obligations. Old Hindu literature in Sanskrit gives many different types of marriages and their categorization ranging from "Gandharva Vivaha" (instant marriage by mutual consent of participants only, without any need for even a single third person as witness) to normal (present day) marriages, to "Rakshasa Vivaha" (marriage performed by abduction of one participant by the other participant, usually, but not always, with the help of other persons). There are elaborate laws in Manusmriti directing which castes and which varnas can marry which castes, and the penalties for breaking these nuptial laws.[citation needed]
For the most part, religious traditions in the world reserve marriage to heterosexual unions, but there are exceptions including Unitarian Universalist and Metropolitan Community Church.

Just ask for forgiveness

Forgiveness is the mental, and/or spiritual process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation or anger against another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. This definition, however, is subject to much philosophical critique. Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who forgives, in terms of the person forgiven and/or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In some contexts, it may be granted without any expectation of compensation, and without any response on the part of the offender (for example, one may forgive a person who is dead). In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgment, apology, and/or restitution, or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe they are able to forgive.
Most world religions include teachings on the nature of forgiveness, and many of these teachings provide an underlying basis for many varying modern day traditions and practices of forgiveness. However, throughout the ages, philosophers have studied forgiveness apart from religion. In addition, as in other areas of human inquiry, science is beginning to question religious concepts of forgiveness. Psychology, sociology and medicine are among the scientific disciplines researching forgiveness or aspects of forgiveness. Instances of teachings on forgiveness such as the parable of the Prodigal Son and Mahatma Gandhi's forgiveness of his assassin as he lay dying, are well known instances of such teachings and practices of forgiveness. Some religious doctrines or philosophies place greater emphasis on the need for humans to find some sort of divine forgiveness for their own shortcomings, others place greater emphasis on the need for humans to practice forgiveness between one another, yet others make little or no distinction between human and/or divine forgiveness.

Love, infatuation, and insanity

"Sacred Love versus Profane Love" by Giovanni Baglione
Studies have shown that brain scans of those in infatuated by love display a resemblance to those with a mental illness. Love creates activity in the same area of the brain that hunger, thirst, and drug cravings create activity in. New love, therefore, could possibly be more physical than emotional. Over time, this reaction to love mellows, and different areas of the brain are activated, primarily ones involving long-term commitments. Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist, suggests that this reaction to love is so similar to that of drugs because without love, humanity would die out.

The word love has different meanings

The word love has many different meanings in English, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that meal") to something one would die for (ideals, family). It can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love. Probably due to its psychological relevance, love is one of the most common themes in art and music.

Just as there are many types of lovers, there are many kinds of love. Though love is inherent in all human cultures, cultural differences make any universal definition difficult to establish. One definition attempting to be universally applicable is Thomas Jay Oord's: to love is to act intentionally, in sympathetic response to others, to promote overall well-being. This definition applies to the positive connotations of love.

Expressions of love may include the love for a "soul" or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, love for the respect of others, etcetera. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. According to many philosophers, the only goal of life is to be happy. And there is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved. Love is essentially an abstract concept, much easier to experience than to explain.

No Matter, What Happens

A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $500/-note. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this 500 note?". Hands started going up. He said, "I am going to give this note to one of you but first let me do this.".

He proceeded to crumple the note up. He then asked, "Who still wants it?". Still the hands were up in the air.

"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?". And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.

"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $ 500/-. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special - Don't ever forget it! No Matter, What Happens..."

MORAL of the Story :- "Never Let Yesterday's Disappointments Outshine Tomorrow's Dreams"