11-yr-old prefers rich dad to mom

11-yr-old prefers rich dad to mom

When children speak, even judges listen. In a unique custody case, the Bombay high court removed a boy from his mother’s care after the 11-year-old told judges that although he loved both parents equally, he wanted to live with his father.

The division bench observed that in custody battles, the ‘‘wishes of the child must override all other considerations’’. Justice Ranjana Desai and R P Sondurbaldota interviewed the boy in their chambers and found that ‘‘for his age he showed a good amount of maturity’’. They also noticed how ‘‘stressed he was because of the discord between his parents’’. The boy’s name has been withheld to protect his identity.

The battle has been a bitter one. The mother, who has had custody of her son since her talaq in 1999, said the only reason he wanted to move was because the father was ‘‘extremely rich and offered him a very good lifestyle’’. The court acknowledged this and said that there was no doubt that the boy was drawn by the ‘‘comfortable lifestyle’’ of his father, a prominent real estate developer from Goregaon, but added that there were other reasons to be considered, such as the father-son bond.

The mother also pointed out that there were a number of civil and criminal cases pending against the father and that he had even been in two weeks’ custody for an economic offence. Moreover, she said that her ex-husband was an Australian citizen and could easily take the boy out of the country and therefore should not be given custody.

The father, in his defense, said that he had been discharged from the cheating case and that the other matters were filed against him because he was the director of a real estate firm.

Father cites Muslim law to get son’s custody

Mumbai: In a unique custody case, the Bombay HC removed a boy from his mother’s care after the 11-year-old told judges that although he loved both parents equally, he wanted to live with his father.

The boy’s father, a prominent real estate developer in Mumbai, also sought to clinch his position by pointing out that under Muslim personal law, the guardian of a boy after he turns seven is the father.

The court was sympathetic to the mother, praised her for bringing up a child who ‘‘appeared well brought up and well groomed’’ and said no one could take a mother’s place in a child’s life. But the deal breaker was that the boy himself had asked to be with his father.

The mother will have access to her son on weekends while during school vacations the boy will divide his time equally between parents.

The father had first sought custody in 1999 but his plea was dismissed. This time it was different. ‘‘What has really weighed with us is the fact that the boy has said he wants to stay with his father...other things being equal we have no option but to direct that interim custody be given to father,’’ the order said.

Ref: The Times of India

Ladies Special - Signs of a Cheating Husband

Ladies Special - Signs of a Cheating Husband

One of the most common ways you can detect if your partner is cheating is by looking out for changes in his day to day routine and behaviour. If your partner is having an affair it is quite likely that he will start acting differently. This is because we all settle into certain routines when things are regular and normal so it is only natural that if something changes in our lives then things get thrown off course and we start doing things differently. These changes in your husband's routine can be giveaway clues that he's seeing someone else but can be so easily missed.Have you detected any of the following?

• Has he become short tempered with you or children?
• Does he want to be out more now whereas before he was happy to be at home with you?
• Does he stay awake later a night? This may be so that he can phone, SMS or email 'her'
  once you've gone to bed or simply in the hope that you'll be asleep before he gets into bed.
• Suspicious cell phone behaviour - Has he become possessive of his cell phone? Does he keep it close by whenever you're nearby? Men who cheat use their cell phone to communicate with the other women. Unless they are totally stupid and use their home phone number. Look for him erasing his call logs and messages constantly.
• Does he insist on answering the phone and talks in coded mode if you are around or feels uncomfortable by your presence?
• Has he become more possessive toward his wallet, pocket calendar or briefcase?
• Has he started avoiding you in the home? Doesn’t look into your eyes straight?
• Does he go out for longer and more frequent walks?
• No more arguing - Has he become docile when arguments arise? Men do not like confrontation when they are cheating, they will do whatever it takes to avoid any type of heated confrontation.
• Has he lost interest in things he used to be passionate about, say a particular sport or a particular hobby?
• All of a sudden has he starts talking about getting together with old friends he hasn't seen in years and about whom he has never spoken of to you?
• Have you noticed him suddenly being more knowledgeable about women's clothing, perfume or jewellery? If so he could be buying gifts for another woman.
• Has he started to take an interest in something that you know he was never previously bothered about?
• Has he stopped leaving his clothes lying around or started doing any of his own washing, maybe because there are revealing smells or marks on them?
• Has he started encouraging you to go alone to visit parents or friends now a days?
• Has he started attending extended seminars/official/business trips or going on tours he never used to attend and go before with that frequency?
• Did he remember things he had forgotten to do at the office and wants to leave immediately at odd hours?
• Does he forget to wear the wedding ring sometimes?
• Does he make a point of keeping the car/bike free of things belonging to you or the kids?
• Has he has started keeping an overnight bag in his car or office, apparently for a workout?

These signs of a cheating husband appearing now and then may not mean anything in isolation, but if you notice a number of them happening with a pattern, you should take them as a warning signs that there's probably something wrong going on. You must take corrective steps to save your marriage.

Source:-http://www.hyderabadpolice.gov.in/